Why marriages fail today but not 25 years ago

Why so many marriage problems today?

Marriage problems are very common in society today. Unfortunately, marriages are more prone to failure compared to 25 years ago.

There are various reasons for this. Most have to do with the parties involved, and the surrounding environment.

In this article, we will explore some of the most common reasons for marriage problems that did not exist 25 years ago.

For Better or Worse - Not just words

Marriage is not a play thing. It is very serious business.

Merriam Webster's definition of a soulmate is, "A person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament."

My definition is "The one person you don't want to live without."

Today, many couples get married because they believe it is the appropriate thing to do. WRONG!

When you marry someone, you have to acknowledge that he or she is your true soulmate.

This is the most important person in your life.

This is the person who suddenly gives you a reason for breathing.

After I married my soulmate, I reminded her every day that she was my only reason for breathing.

Unfortunately, she is no longer with me. She was taken away by the worst enemy possible - Cancer.

For better or worse? How much worse can it get?

How technology has caused marriage problems

Technology has changed the way married couples interact with each other.

Unfortunately, because of technology, spouses do not interact only with each other, but with someone else of the opposite gender. 25 years ago, this same technology was not as lively and active as it is today.

This is not to imply that technology is a bad thing.

It is an awesome thing. Use it wisely.

Like everything else, technology must be kept in its proper perspective.

Misuse of technology has brought about its fair share of major problems for marriages.

The rise of social media has contributed to this. It is easier than ever for people in a marriage to connect with others outside of their marriage, leading to increased temptation and infidelity.

The growing popularity of smartphones and other devices has resulted in a lack of quality time and communication between spouses. Couples may find themselves more focused on their screens and other people instead of each other, leading to feelings of neglect and disconnection.

Couples should set boundaries around technology use and prioritize quality time together to maintain a healthy and thriving marriage. Unfortunately, as addicting as technology is today, this is easier said than done.

More specifically, how technology has ended many marriages

Many marriages that don't work today did work in the past. The reason is because there were certain things spouses did not do 25 years ago.

Spouses' attitudes towards each other today

Personal ethics is how a person identifies with people and situations in everyday life. It is the moral guidelines that can help couples through tough situations and make the best decisions.

Just as the people of yesteryear had a very strong work ethic, they had a very strong personal ethic.

Today, many married couples don't seem to care. Saying the words I DO! is just a formality. In all fairness, many married couples are not like this, but sadly, many are.

They don't seem to care about each other like our parents and grandparents did. From the very beginning, their attitude was:

OK! I'll marry him(her) because it seems like the most appropriate thing to do.

I'll give it a whirl. But if it doesn't work out, so be it!

Not meaning to be presumptuous, a marriage in which couples have this attitude is doomed before it begins. You shouldn't marry someone because it's a formality. You should marry someone because this is the person you love AND like.

The difference between loving someone and liking someone

Two people in a marriage can love each other, but not like each other. If this is the case, this marriage will not work.

Spouses will say they love each other because they believe, in their minds. it is the right thing to say. And they may really mean it.

There is a big difference between love and like. Here is the best way to explain the difference:

Two people can love each other, but it is possible that neither can stand to be around the other.

If two people like each other, neither can stand to be away from the other.

If both spouses like each other, this is a marriage that will last.

25 years ago, there were more couples who couldn't stand to be away from each other. This is proof that they were true soulmates.

Conclusion

Marriage is a very sacred, special, and cherished bond between a man and woman. It should be treated as such.

Your spouse is the most important person in your life. Don't take your spouse for granted. An don't let it go. Otherwise, you will never get a second chance to be happy.

I hope this article has helped you.

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